Sex ed: my abstinence article
During the first decade of the new millennium, there was a band of three sisters that purportedly led a purity movement for youth in North America and beyond, more specifically for the teenagers and young adults. The sisters are BarlowGirl (BG), of course, and the purity organizations they have partnered with include Rock For Life (RFL) and True Love Waits (TLW). BG has been sponsored by TLW and that charity’s partner, LifeWay Christian Resources, to promote a “Takes The Town” tour. The sister band would perform rock concerts with songs they treated as purity anthems, like “Average Girl” in tour and “The Guy Song” post-tour, accompanied with sermonettes on how the trio and fans should wear purity rings and save sex for marriage.
Unfortunately, the TWL campaign has proven to have little effect for those who have taken it, at least prior to BG’s involvement. In 1999, a Yale and Columbia study found that 88% of teens who took the pledge broke it by having pre-marital sex prior to age 24. In 2003, another study reported a lower number of 82%, obtained by adding 60% engaging in vaginal sex with another 22% engaging in oral sex. A secular movie mocks purity when a girl in an outtake proclaims: “B***jobs don’t count!” Many Disney stars such as the Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus, Britney Spears, Demi Lovato and Selena Gomez have also likewise worn purity rings. Of these seven people, though, only Kevin Jonas honoured his pledge by marrying Danielle Deleasa in 2009.
On a similar note, it is sad for me to say that BarlowGirl has made decisions over the years that compromised their purity walk. In January 2013, while the band was still actively encouraging fans to purchase trinket merchandise, Lauren Barlow proclaimed that she approves of Beyoncé if she becomes a presidential candidate in the USA. During that same month, Lauren said her dance lessons left her feeling “like a whiter and way less cool version” compared to Beyoncé, who is notorious for her sexually explicit performances at venues like the hardcore pornography movie Fifty Shades of Grey and a lingerie show. [note 1] Alyssa Barlow praised Beyoncé’s “Run The World” in July 2013, calling it “appropriate” for a five-year-old.
How insulting this is to the millions of teens and young adults who have taken a purity pledge after hearing the testimonies of those like BG! This has continued in February 2014, with both sisters giving their accolades to filthy false idol Bruno “Mars”. In February 2016, Lauren praised the Super Bowl 50 halftime show, which featured Bruno and Beyoncé with Coldplay. This is despite the three sisters sharing verses like Romans 12:2 and Ephesians 5:3 during their “ministry” years. Instead of explaining to me why they are mingling with this filth, the Barlows cowardly shut me out and ignore my desire to be pure. Meanwhile, they indulge in the fortune and fame they earned dishonestly through what they touted to be a purity platform.
This makes me grieve and consider BG to be a secular rock ‘n’ roll band, not Christian ministers nor purity mentors. Rebecca Barlow (aka. Becca Barlow), her two younger sisters and her friend Beka Hardt she had as BarlowGirl’s manager all need to believe and repent in Jesus Christ to have His blood cleanse all four women from sin. They should stop praising sin, instead believing “For the wages of sin is death” (Romans 6:23a) in hell!
Now, in light of all of the above, I wish to share an article I wrote no later than May 2008 during high school. I don’t recall the exact date, but it was to answer a midterm question for sexual education in health class. I discuss the purity movement led by bands like BG and what I learned from it at that time. It’s disappointing that these role models have irreverence towards the purity they once appeared to cherish, but to this day, I keep these values in Jesus’ name. I originally wrote the article in French and today, in honour of International Women’s Day, I have translated it to English. I want people to be aware of the situation so that true Christians can keep BarlowGirl and their fans in prayer. I hope you enjoy reading my article!
Test question: According to you, is there a difference between teenagers from the 80s to 90s and those from the 2000s? Why?
Your answer must show a proof of maturity and reflection. Think of the movie “The Breakfast Club”.
My answer: According to me, it is plausible that teens are interested in sex, because influence from their partner, peers and media (music, movies, TV, magazines) encourages sex as a casual activity.
However, what I am noticing in the 21st century is the wave of abstinence movements, where we can decide to save sex for our husband or wife. We see jewelry, such as rings, chains and keys as a reminder ti maintain purity and anticonformity. The members of the group Superchick wrote a song that was popular (at least for some, especially in the United States) called “Barlow Girls”, in order to express to listeners that they admired women and girls who respected their bodies and mind not only by abstaining from sexual activities until marriage, but also by avoiding these types of activities by deciding to not to have romantic relations — except with, of course, the husband. It’s a revolutionary phenomenon, because thousands of teens, girls and boys, have decided to abstain from sex, and, for some, romantic relationships, and to put them aside for their husband or wife.
Those who are against these types of abstinence use le pleasure and emotions as arguments. They say that because sex gives them pleasure, emotions of well-being and temporary sensations, it (sex) should lose its value (giving birth to a child in a family) by becoming a casual activity that we do “just for fun” or “to feel good”, which are not valid reasons. That’s why guys (like those in the group Superchick) admire girls (like the three Barlow sisters) who think with their brain rather than with their emotions.
To conclude, I agree that the reasons to participate in casual (that is, outside the context of marriage) are similar, if not identical, from generation to generation. However, throughout the history of planet Earth, I have never noticed revolutions as big and as impactful as those such as the “Barlow Girls” that start off the new millenium in an excellent way, and that remain alive today and tomorrow.
By the way:
- we could apply the arguments of paragraph three to drug and alcohol abuse, and
- I’m not making up a fairy tale. 😉
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- Furthermore, Beyoncé was the lead producer and writer for the song “Winter Paradise” on her group Destiny’s Child’s album 8 Days of Christmas. In that song, she blasphemously proclaims: “This is how I feel about Christmas […] it’s the family prayer, it’s the new VS underwear […] and thanking God for the birth of His Son”. Now, for those of you who would like to hear it for yourself, please use the audio player just underneath!